Friday Blaque List 23

What I’m….




Manners & Customs in the Bible” by Victor H. Matthews



1. That guys back then were required to wear beards or risk being branded unholy. Their beards had to be very long, and squared off at the bottom.


I saw this in parts of Afghanistan. There was a booming business in selling fake beards for guys unable to grow their own long enough, or thick enough.

2. Harlots were required to go unveiled with their hair exposed in public, or risk torture and death by law. Which must mean that all other women wore veils with their hair covered in public




Exactly when & why did the veil for women come into being?

And why only women?

And being that so many, many cultures throughout history had & still have veiled women, why do Westerners get so bent about only Muslim veiled women?







Eat something I don’t like, because that always shuts down my appetite.

Going out to dinner tonight with friends, so wanna keep my stomach open for business. We’re hitting my fave restaurant & I know exactly what I’m ordering. Been craving it for a month.


Going to stuff myself silly & nothing in my stomach is going to stop me. Because nothing will be in my stomach taking up valuable fave-food space!


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14 thoughts on “Friday Blaque List 23

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  2. “why do Westerners get so bent about only Muslim veiled women?”

    I can’t speak for all Westerners, but I think one of the reasons for the bent-ness is that American women have worked hard for their liberation and they hate to see something which seems to threaten the progress they’ve made. You talk frequently about how minority people need to fight to protect themselves against encroaching prejudice and bias. To many women, the veil appears to be a symbol of both prejudice and bias, as well as repression and violence against women.

    You’re a lot more knowledgeable than me about world-wide social customs, so I’m sure I might be amazed to find out how many non-Muslim women are veiled, but sitting here in Dallas, Texas, the only veiled women I run into are Muslims(with the exception of nuns, who are a whole different story and just as likely to get some women riled up). Now the veils come in every flavor, from a batik scarf wrapped loosely around the head and shoulders to full-body all-black burkas where even the eyes are covered up with a net, but so far, everyone I’ve talked to is Muslim.

    Still, I don’t think it is the veiled women that causes the problem. Most of us really want women to do what they want – whatever that is, including covering their head in public. But the veil raises the question – is this a choice the woman has made or one she’s had made for her? You don’t have to search too far to find reports of women for whom Conservative Islam is not a choice, but the only life they know – and it’s not an easy one. Worldwide there are many women (Muslim and otherwise) fighting in Muslim countries against failures to educate women, against physical and sexual abuse, against child marriages, against maimed female genitalia, against laws stacked against women and the list goes on and on. When we see a veil, we want to be sure the woman behind it wants to be there. Unsure how to ask and unsure whether we could believe the answers we might receive if we asked, I guess bent-ness is the result.

    • Great points, here. I can totally understand your thought process.

      On this issue, we do have an incredibly limited reference point here in the West. Unfortunately, Muslim atrocities are the only side of the story told here. We are presented with selective horrors which suit the purpose of our politicians…make for more sensational news items…feeds our fear-based phobia-of-the-moment…etc. And that small base of reference saturates our news & our psyche, leaving us with a distorted view in which we determine that such abhorrent practices are ubiquitous, the norm throughout “Muslim countries.” We have no access to any other representation of “the Muslim world” because it falls inconveniently outside our ideology. This is very sad.

      I’ve been to places where all I hear is how dangerous America is, how we’re a nation of serial killers, child molesters, wife-beaters, racist hate crime killers, etc. It makes me crazy, because it’s just not true. But, just as we do here with Muslims/veiled women, they argue “It IS true! See? Look at how many serial killers you have! Look at all the children molested & killed in your country! Look at all the battered women in your country! Look at all the minorities killed by your police forces! And on & on. Yes, those horrors happen here. But they are not ALL that we are. However, because it’s the only thing those places hear about us, they take it as undeniable truth about America as a whole. Very sad…

      The more I travel, the more I learn, the more I become aware of just how uninformed we really are, and how focusing solely on ideologically selective information about a culture is a dangerous practice that, at the very least, eats away at the fabric of society.

      • Well – on this particular issue I do have a window into a little more than just the American side of things. My husband is Egyptian. I’ve been there. We listen to the news from inside the country in the language by natives and we still have a lot of family there that can give us first hand reports. Yes, there are intelligent, liberated women there that choose to wear the veil, but that’s only a part of the story.

        Yes, America is the land of opportunity, freedom, democracy. I wouldn’t want to live anywhere else – but the things others fear concerning us are real, too. We do awful things to other countries in total ignorance of the consequences, as you have pointed out. We do awful things to each other, which you are also quick to point out. We’re home to many depraved people and our morals are on a downhill slide. We’ve become so polarized politically that our government can barely function. (See I’ve been listening to you.) I’m worried about us and for us.

        Meanwhile our media makes sure that we have our worst foot forward – but you asked why Western women get bent and that’s how I see it. Are all of their fears and concerns about Islam applicable to all Muslims? Absolutely not. But the things they fear are more than mere rumors – just as the things other people fear from America are rooted firmly in fact, not just figments of their imagination.

        • You said it, sister! 🙂 Thank you for helping to make my point that even though these marginal horrors are true about both Americans & Muslims, it should not define our country or our culture as a whole.

  3. Everyday Life:Colonial Times (US) and The Year 1000(Europe) are two books of interest as they are about the everyday living of people in those times. I was very moved learning how difficult life was.

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